To the twinkle in my eye

Many have incessantly asked us when we are going to have you, and in so many different ways. The questions range from the polite to just plain rude.

"Are you planning to have kids?"

"So when are you going to have a baby?"

"Why don't you have kids yet?"

"Are you able to have kids?"

"Is there something wrong?"

"Are you barren?"

It's the inevitable question we get because we've been married for years now but haven't had you. And frankly, up to this point, we have not tried. Why? We have so many considerations with one underlying reason. We love you too much that we want to be as ready as we can be. Yes, we've already been told that no one is ever ready for someone as special as you, but we certainly want to be as prepared as two imperfect people can be.

We've been ready physically for a long time. It would be quite easy to have you. Some people do it without even a thought. We want to be ready, though, emotionally, mentally and psychologically. If we are to be your parents, we want to be certain that we are in a stage that we are ready to give you not necessarily the best things in the world, but the best of who we are. We want to be in that state of being when we can practice true, and sometimes tough, love that exhibits patience, wisdom, joy, self-control and understanding.

Having you would be the most wonderful, life-changing thing that can happen to us, and we want you to enjoy having us as much as we will enjoy having you. We not only want to bring you up, but bring you out - the best of you. In the meantime, we're working on ourselves so that if you ever come around, we can show you love and life, and not just tell you about it.